Before reading this article, just answer these simple questions:
Are you happy?
Are you married?
Are you happily married?
Yeah, this article is specially for you!
Still Single? Then it is especially for you!!
Our lives are a lot marred by marriages.
Before marriage, he would exclaim “She is killing me!”; after marriage, he would cry “She is killing me, literally”.
Before marriage, she would blush “Don’t look at me like that!”; after marriage she would flush “Don’t ever look at me like that!”
Valentines gift before marriages are “You have me!” with a wink and after marriage it is “You still have me!” on the brink.
Waiting for an hour before marriage seems like “I can’t wait to see you!” and post marriage, waiting for even 10 minutes feels like “I can’t wait to see YOU”.
And a lot of things changes us. Yet, couples choose to stay together; repeating the same mistake every morning; and they strive to work their marriage out which is complex than rocket science. And this made me wonder what mantra makes this magic of marriage work?
I started the research with myself as lab rat at times. I was surprised and my thoughts were surpassed by the results.
First of all, Health and Lifestyle:
Being married helps you live longer; I wondered if it just made life seem longer. But researchers from Michigan State University and the University of Cincinnati found that living with a partner lowered the mortality rate of men by 80% and women by 59%. 2013 Journal of Clinical Oncology states ‘Being married significantly improves the likelihood of surviving cancer and 17% less likely to see their cancer spread. A 2014 study from American college of Cardiology says that on screening 3.5 million adults for cardiovascular problems, researchers found those who married had less heart disease and healthier blood vessels. Their partners have kept them on track with follow-up care and moral support.
A study at University of Chicago suggested that married people have less psychological stress. I think whenever they encounter a problem, they will think of Spouse – what bigger a problem can be? Married people also tend to take fewer risks. According to Dr. Christopher Fagundes, people who live together act more cautiously than those who live alone. So, go dare your husband for bungee jumping and win the bet amount today 😉
Secondly, Financial benefits:
A study from Ohio University found married people experience a per person net worth increase of 77% over singles. Additionally, their combined wealth increases on average by 16% for each year of marriage. If your spouse is working, you get tax benefits, health insurance, financial security in case you lose your job. One of your incomes can be used for investing for happy retirement together. Even if otherwise, you get a property inheritance and hence financial security. So next time, if your wife says, “I have nothing to wear”, don’t feel like setting her wardrobe on fire; just smile and swipe your credit card 😊
Third and most important, any guesses?
I read you! We often tell our little ones “How come you be just like your Mom?” or sigh “Why didn’t you inherit even a single gene of mine?” and we they secretly admire their cuteness. But a recent study shows that the relationship between spouses suffers once kids come along. The irony is even as the marital satisfaction of new parents declines, the likelihood of them divorcing also declines. At least we need one another to attend parents-teachers meeting right. But relationship improves as kids grow up; Eventually they become our world and we happily dwell in it.
No matter, these benefits marriage bring, most people marry for the old-fashioned reason – Love and companionship. Every one of us needs a shoulder to cry on, a soul to rely on and a support to lean on.
Though in argument, they shout ‘Get lost!’, if we are late by half an hour, they keep calling continuously.
Though at times, they don’t seem to care; they always stand our first line of defense.
Needless to say, being a family raises the social status. Marriage is not just the bond of two hearts; it is the blending of two families and passing on our legacy.
So dear readers, considering all these perks and the pains, pressures and problems that keep chasing us, getting married and raising a family is a haven, a safe haven. And as they say, marriages are made in heaven it is indeed a heavenly haven.
Of course, there are pros and cons to marriage and staying single has their own advantages in some aspects. But marriage outwits them all. If you expect me to conclude ‘Being married is the best’ – Yes but with a disclaimer:
Marriages are subject to Personal risks. Please carefully choose your partner before tying!